I’m going to wrap this series up today. I know there are still a few more quotes left on the mat, but I want to go ahead and sum it all up.
I feel like it can be condensed down into this:
If you don’t like who you are right now, change.
You are in control of your own being. You can choose to become organized. You can choose to become kind. You can choose to become a morning person. (believe me, this has been something I’ve worked on and its slowwwwwwwly happening lol.) You can choose to become more peaceful. You can choose to become more assertive. You can choose to become less pessimistic. You can choose to be less hard on yourself. You can choose to love.
The first step is just ask to yourself who you want to be.
If you know someone who is similar to what you want to be like, seek them out. Become friends. Spend time with them. Learn from them.
If you’re overstressed, re-prioritize your life. Let go of the things that don’t line up with who you want to be, or how you want to live your life. Take the first step. You won’t just change over night. Your life won’t change over night. Your situation won’t change over night…but you can take the first steps.
You can take a look in the mirror and allow yourself to see where you are vs where you want to be. Maybe this is a physical thing for you. Maybe it’s an emotional or spiritual thing for you.
You can choose to stop the hatred.
You can choose to love yourself right where you are.
You can choose to see the true potential within you.
The second step is to forgive. (maybe this is for someone else….or maybe this is to forgive yourself- for the hate and shame that you’ve put on yourself)
Then, you can strip away the things that don’t make you feel whole.
If you want to be a more positive person, find positive affirmations and post them everywhere. Read them to yourself and allow yourself to believe them. Over time, you will begin to naturally think this way.
If you want to be less hurried, allow yourself to slow down. Cancel things that can be cancelled. Don’t schedule new things. “Schedule” down time. Literally put it on your calendar. Tell yourself that you can’t plan a meeting etc during that time. MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.
Allow yourself to just “be”.
Talk to your kids about this if they’re old enough to be a part of the busy-ness already. Are they in 5 different sports and activities? Tell them they get to choose one next season. Maybe take a complete break from all sports/activities for a season; then they can choose one at the next season. I know it’s difficult for the parents because we want our kids to do all the things we did…or maybe get to do all the things we didn’t get to do…but it’s important for them to learn the value of slowing down as well.
Mama’s, it’s okay to slow down. It’s okay to need to slow down. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to be imperfect. Our kids need to see our flaws in order to see how they can gracefully wade through their own imperfections as they grow.
It’s been said over and over, but I’ll say it again. It’s OKAY to not be okay. Just don’t stay there. Take the steps to change what needs to be changed. Give yourself the same level of grace and mercy that you would give your children. Allow yourself the space to feel what you feel. Ask yourself what needs to be made new. Pray. Linger in prayer. Allow yourself to find what you want your priorities to be, what you want your life to look like…and then stand up and simply begin.
I would love to hear from you and pray with/for you as you wade through these waters. I am not where I want to be yet either. I believe it’s a long journey- possibly a lifetime of pruning, watering, love and care…but we can travel it together.