I grew up in the church. I grew up hearing these verses…just not the same way that I read them now.
“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Then, the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Finally, whatever is true, whatever is noble, pure, lovely, and admirable…if anything is praise worthy- think about those things.” Phillipians 4:4-8
Growing up, these verses were always quoted separately. They were used individually. They left out what I feel are vital verses.
Rejoice in the Lord always. This was often used in a way to say you should never question, but always rejoice. If you are saved, you should always be happy. Always. Except I wasn’t. I must not be a good enough Christian.
Do not be anxious about anything. Ever. Just don’t. If you’re anxious, you must have doubt. You must not believe God is enough. But I have anxiety. I must not be a good enough Christian.
I never heard these all quoted together until recently. I went home and re-read through it. I repeated it over and over. It finally made sense.
Before, when they were used individually, they brought shame because I was still anxious and I didn’t always feel like rejoicing. Now, with all of it presented together (you know, how it was intended!) it’s an entirely different message.
Now, broken down into my own words…
-Worry less.
-Pray more.
-Let His peace in.
-Think about happy things.
-Look for the positives.
-Thank God for it all.
You don’t have to always be happy but, when you’re having a hard day, try to look for the positive things to help you find joy again. If you are worried or feeling anxious, pray. Remember that God is always with you and cares for you. Try to look for the positive side of things even when things aren’t going how you planned. Then, be thankful…even if things haven’t changed yet. I know that’s hard, but it really does help. We don’t see the whole picture, so what seems like a storm right now may end up being even for our own good.
It’s not about being good enough. Hint: you can’t. That’s why he saved us in the first place. It’s not about shaming you for being upset or grieved, or worried, or anything other than happy. Happiness is not the only acceptable human emotion. Jesus Himself experienced so much anxiety that he sweat blood. The message was never supposed to be about never experiencing a bad day or worry or fear. The message was supposed to show us how to get through it. I don’t know why people just pick out the parts almost as if to say, “Just don’t feel. Just don’t worry. How dare you worry or doubt!?” Now, I hope that’s not truly what they were meaning by it…but it’s certainly how it was perceived by many.
I knew when I read this I had to share. I had to clarify. I want to make it clear that Jesus is gentle. He doesn’t shake His finger at you tisking you to shame. He knows the feeling of concern. He knows. He was human. He lived here. He knows. It’s okay to not be happy 100% of the time. Just don’t stay there.